Making her enjoy the benefits of locking you up I have found is the key to getting her into Permanent chastity and key holding. I have been doing nothing but serving my wife/key holder since introducing her to chastity and giving her a key. By doing things for her and us that I neglected before being locked by her. Daily things like making the bed, keeping dishes cleaned up, making sure there is no dirty laundry, and ensuring no clutter is left on coffee tables night stands etc. I have also took on bigger tasks for her such as organizing her clothes and closet, having her make a weekly to do list for tasks she wants completed (clean refrigerator, clean furniture, etc). Seeing how I work part time and my key holder is the breadwinner I do have a unique situation to enable me to very quickly convince her that I’m better off never unlocked except for when she wants pleasure.I created a reward system that says I get to cum one time a month, but that time can easily be extended based on many factors. The system basically works like this : for example if I forget a daily task or don’t complete it fully then she adds a day to my orgasm day, If I don’t complete a weekly task she adds a week to orgasm day, if I ask for sex or get handsy ie below the waist and it’s not initiated by her then she adds a month I will only be able to ask for sex once I have reached orgasm day. She can choose within a week the when and how whether that be sex or letting me masturbate. If she isn’t getting pleasure on my go day then I have one minute to cum (I only needed 30sec on Tuesday and that was only 2 days into starting chastity so She is very generous). The reason for the don’t ask for sex policy is simple. After being married a while we had gotten to a point that kissing , cuddling, or even complimenting how hot she looked were perceived by her to be subtle negotiations for sex (and lets be honest they were) this resulted in a loss of intimacy. On the days she was tired from work or just not in the mood she would become stressed and anxious at any form of affection because she felt obligated despite it not being “right” for her. Just giving her control over my penis was a big step in protecting her from feeling obligated but not enough to keep me from pressuring her to unlock for sex, thus the harsh penalty for asking for sex was implemented. The benefits have been amazing I get to be intimate like when we were dating without her feeling the obligation of sex.I have been rewarded the last 2 nights with her letting me ride a strap-on she has always been ok with checking my prostate. She’s still a little uncomfortable with the idea of her wearing a cock says it makes her feel like a lesbian, but let’s be honest I’m the one taking it in the ass lol. I do worry that I may pressure her for the pegging and it may ruin the whole thing so I’m probably going to have to self implement a rule for asking about that also.To summarize all that; so far chastity has been amazing. I stay hot for her because I’m not having the libido drop that comes from orgasm nor am cheating by masturbaiting every day because it was easier than putting in the work for her affection. I pursue her more and enjoy doing chores for her like when we first met. She is more willing to make out cuddle etc because she knows it doesn’t have to lead to anything else. She is less stressed and incredibly happy about her home being cleaned while she is out busting her ass, which means my life is better because she isn’t angry with me for being slack. I have bought cages secretly for a few years, trying to find a good fit and wishing she would go for it, but too afraid to ask. So let’s be honest if you’re into chastity and your girl surprises you by being open to it and then gets on board with doing it permanently it’s fucking hot. Get your own Orgasm Control toys: For men: http://www.amzn.to/1V6XQvv For women: https://ift.tt/1UWn54n