Much of my sexuality involves my hard side. Hard cock. Hard slaps. Hard bites. But then it’s time to change gears. I love contrast. Apparently my girl does too. So, right on the heels of hard, come the fingertips of gentle.Speaking the right words at the right time in the right tone of voice and at the right volume (usually a whisper), while occupying her other senses with my gentle touch that is so light she can’t be certain to feel it at all times. Is his finger tip slowly tracing the length of my cunt lip moving toward my clit? Did it stop or is it still touching, just more lightly?Touch is certainly important. But the content of the words that I deliver with a whisper into the ear of my girl, is even more powerful. Sometimes I speak seemingly unconnected words that conjure up images in her mind. Yet other times, I share a story that I create on the spur of the moment as the spirit moves me.Perhaps most important is my listening. I whisper slowly and quietly so that I can clearly hear my girl’s breathing, gasping and whimpering. It is her responsiveness that inspires me in my choice of words and the change in touch from hard to gentle and back again.My girl’s shared with me that her orgasms have never been as good as they are now. But here’s the thing. It’s her responsiveness to my touch, my voice and my mind that moves me and excites me more than every in my life. It’s a sort of circular power dance that empowers her sexuality and orgasms and my own.Before I incorporated BDSM into my sexuality, sex was good. Now it’s phenomenal. I just needed the right girl that could be super responsive to my administrations.In the end, it’s touch of various kinds and voice that can be modulated wel but totally controlled by mind that dominates a submissive girl. Get your own Orgasm Control toys: For men: http://www.amzn.to/1V6XQvv For women: https://ift.tt/1UWn54n