How can I condition myself to mainly have ruined orgasms?

Someone just told me about this sub so I’m going to have to look it over thoroughly after I post this. :)I’ve always had an orgasm denial/chastity kink but I’ve never been good at not not cumming after a few days so I want to try and condition myself to primarily have only ruined orgasms for the foreseeable future.I don’t really like ruined orgasms much. They hurt a bit and leave me so frustrated but they’re much easier for me to accept having compared to not having an orgasm in the middle of my self appointed denial periods. I’m also hoping I can come to crave having them instead of real ones since I usually like that I ruined it later after the fact when I’m still denying myself and the feelings of denial don’t go away.I’m not completely sure how to go about it. I’m thinking I might need to have x number or ruined orgasms before an actual orgasm? And I’m also looking for ideas on how to go about ruining them in different ways. So I am open to suggestions, training ideas, or routines for each day anyone might have. It’s my hope that I can get to the point I can accept they’re my primary form of orgasms even if I don’t like them completely now. The idea is hot but the sensation of having them right before I do isn’t the greatest if that makes sense?Thank you in advance if anyone has ideas. female orgasm denial Get your own Orgasm Control toys: For men: http://www.amzn.to/1V6XQvv For women: https://ift.tt/1UWn54n