Hi all! First post, pls be nice ā¤ļø (F23)Iāve been edging myself as long as I can remember, and the idea of orgasm denial is very hot but like many people have said, itās hard to do by yourself. But! Iāve been dating a guy for a while now, and weāve been talking about (short term) denial. Weāre doing ldr, with visits once a month or so. So far, Iāve asked for it to be a rule that when we sext, I donāt cum until after he does. Weāve been doing that for a while and itās great āŗļø Lately weāve done that in person too, but itās more flexible. I can come a crazy amount of times, (I think 50 in 2 hours was about the highest Iāve done so far), so limiting the orgasms I get to have is still hot. I like asking if I can come and hearing him say ānot yetā š„°Additionally, weāve been trying out short stretches of denial in the days leading up to the visit. Last time it was three days, this time it looks like itāll be 4-5. I technically started last night, but I had an accidental ruin with my morning edge and felt super bad about it. Like, got close, stopped all stimulation, tried to will it away, couldnāt stop it ā¹ļøI really want to hold off until Iām with him, and I also want to edge so Iāll be nice and desperate for him when he gets here, but Iām afraid of either a) losing the whole day to edging and not doing regular stuff Iām supposed to do, or b) accidentally getting too close and coming.I have a gut feeling that there should be a consequence for not following through with what I said Iād do, like with the ruin today. The last time I talked with him, my boyfriend was not into doing any kind of punishment, and I respect that. Heās a lot more vanilla than me, and hasnāt been as sexually active in the past as I have, and I appreciate that heās put in so much effort to communicate with me about what I want out of this kind of thing. Iām really submissive, and heās been great to me. Heās not into strict rules or control though, and I kinda want that sometimes. Iād like to be told to edge at certain times, or told that I can edge whenever, but I can only cum when Iām sexting him (or in person).Does anyone have experience navigating an orgasm denial kink with a wonderful partner that is willing to do some of the stuff with you, but basically just does it because they love you, not because itās an inherent kink of theirs? Where is the line between asking for what you want and asking for something they wonāt/canāt give you?Thanks all ā¤ļø female orgasm denial Get your own Orgasm Control toys: For men: http://www.amzn.to/1V6XQvv For women: https://ift.tt/1UWn54n
