What do you say to let him know you don’t really want to cum yet?

Hey y’all :-)As my partner and I get to know each other in an orgasm control/denial sense, one of the struggles we have been having is that often I will tell him how difficult something is/will be. I want to rub in the frustration, anticipate it, revel in it. But he’s looking for clues that maybe it’s been too long and I’m ready to/need to cum.How do you navigate this? I really don’t want to be in charge of my orgasms at all. But I also don’t want him to think that I need to cum just because I’m telling him how hard something is. I WANT it to be hard; I WANT to suffer the agonizing pleasures of control and denial.I’m thinking about maybe starting my sentences with, “I’m not asking to cum, but…” cause that is super obvious what I’m doing then.I also don’t want to make a system where effectively I am in control of when I get to cum, either, though.Thoughts/advice? female orgasm denial Get your own Orgasm Control toys: For men: http://www.amzn.to/1V6XQvv For women: https://ift.tt/1UWn54n