Difficulty to reach orgasm, want to get tips on easier methods

So i’ve started looking into new things lately, I would see myself as a kinkster to a certain extent, but I have always wanted to try orgasm denial (or have it done to me to be more exact) but no one has ever been able to make me get any bit close to orgasmI love actual acts, its not that i dont get pleasure from them, but I can only reach orgasm if i do 2 things, have some fabric between my fingers and crotch and also move my fingers at a really fast pace that 9 times out of 10 i get sick of trying and just give upWould anyone have any tips or advice on easier ways or anything? I have tried multiple types of toys etc and none of them seem to work for me either female orgasm denial Get your own Orgasm Control toys: For men: http://www.amzn.to/1V6XQvv For women: https://ift.tt/1UWn54n